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Following Up with Goal-Setting Part 2

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Last week, we posted Following Up with Goal-Setting Part 1 on the WISER goal-setting process in application starting with the conceptual steps (W and I). 

Now that you have had the chance to identify your breakthrough goals and ways to stay inspired by them, let’s dive into the more action-oriented steps of the process (S, E, and R).

Once again, we have the architect of this method, Naokimi Ushiroda, to share with us through some follow-up questions on how to actually apply each step of the WISER process.

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Strategy

This step requires another set of lists – of strategies, or ways to get closer to your goal. The suggestion outlined in a 5-Step Process to Setting Awesome Goals is to identify 3 to 4 different strategies for each goal.

Follow-up Question: What is the process of coming up with strategies and what are some good examples?

“Once again, a goal needs more than one strategy to be achieved. The process is simply asking yourself the right question, What will help me to achieve my goal?

Some strategies I came up with for my relationship goal to strengthen my marriage are to

  • commit to a daily act of service, such as washing dishes, giving her a massage, etc.,
  • read a book about relationships so I can deepen my own understanding, and
  • take my wife out on a date every two weeks.

Some strategies I came up with for my health goal to achieve a black belt in Tae Kwon Do are to

  • pay for the chance to exercise since this dollar investment will push me to work out and
  • check in on a weekly basis with the CARP team on our health log for accountability.

I have strategies set for my public work goal and business goal as well. 

Follow-up Question: Do you have any other tips?

An additional tip is to anticipate your roadblocks, or challenges, and create a strategy around that problem before you hit it.

As an example, a common challenge is “not having enough time.” Your strategy in anticipating that challenge could be to set aside a certain amount of time every week to work on your goal.

When you set goals, you are moving from where you currently are to somewhere that you aren’t yet. Challenges or resistance is a natural side effect of any progress or growth. When you set new goals, you need to expect these challenges, so that they don’t surprise you and discourage you on your journey to achieving your goals.

Your strategies act as a preparation tool for overcoming those challenges instead of becoming overwhelmed by them.” 

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Execute

For this step, the emphasis is on executing a daily action. With a plan in place, the next step is to do something toward your goal and keep a log of your actions for review later on.

 

Follow-up Question: How do you take daily action toward your goals?

“This step is really about identifying one simple thing that takes 10 minutes or less that you could do on a daily basis. By doing something daily, you can develop confidence and focus towards your goal and build momentum towards your goal.

One go-to daily action I recommend for anyone is to read a book or listen to an audiobook related to your goal. Even just 10 minutes every day. This one habit will guarantee growth, and you will be much further along in your goal one year from now. I like to listen to audiobooks on my commute, because there’s not much else I can do productively when I’m on the bus.  

An easy daily action step for a health goal is to keep a filled water bottle next to you. This way, you automatically end up drinking more water throughout the day and it decreases your intake of less healthy foods and drinks.

One daily action I try to do for my relationship goal is to always give my wife a hug and a kiss everytime I see her – when I wake up, when I come home from work, and when I go to bed. This is a simple act of connecting that contributes toward mybreakthrough goal.

The underlying value of this daily action is that it helps prevent a sense of overwhelm as you continuously apply small steps toward your goals. It also serves as a constant reminder of what’s important to you, and you’ll start to notice new opportunities that will help you in achieving your goal.” 

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Review

Finally, the last step in the process is to always review, review, review. Setting a clear time each week to go over your actions toward achieving your goals is essential. An additional tip is to find an accountability partner.

 

Follow-up Question: What is the process of review for you in your goal-setting?

“For my coaching business, I actually have a coach of my own who helps me prioritize what I need to do each week. Having a coach as an accountability partner has helped me so much in growing my business and in keeping me balanced in all my other goals.

In my work, I implemented a weekly check-in with the CARP staff in order to reflect on what worked and what didn’t work, and it has kept us on track with our goals.

In my relationship with my wife, I actually set aside Sunday afternoons as the time to check in with her to go over anything she needs on a weekly basis. This is the time where we can talk about finances, vacation plans, activities for the kids, etc. It’s a way for us to connect over all household issues.

The main point of having a weekly review is to have the space to make mistakes and learn from them. With review, you don’t have to stress or fear failure, because you know that you can always learn from your mistakes and get better. Naturally, this will lead to more action and expedited progress.” 

Follow-up Question: Is this Review step supposed to beimplemented only weekly?

It’s important to check yourself weekly on your action steps, but time and again, it’s good to do a full review, which means to go through all the WISER steps again. This could be every two weeks, every month, or even every 40 days.

By doing this, you may find that your What needs more clarification, or that your goal is not Inspiring to you any more, and you need to adjust it accordingly. Or maybe your Strategy needs tweaking for a more effective outcome. You may find that you want a new daily action to Execute or that you want to change your weekly Review time to make it work for your schedule.

This is an ever-evolving process that will constantly improve itself based on what works for you. This is what it means to have a mastery approach to goals – it’s ultimately about becoming a better you.   

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Big Goals

This comprehensive goal-setting process is supposed to make the task easier, more enjoyable, and rewarding as you seek out what you want in life and how to achieve it. 

One of Naokimi’s BIG goals is to write a book outlining this process with real life stories around the application of the WISER goal-setting process. We are hoping to find CARP students and others who are willing and excited to take on the WISER challenge and share their story.

If you are trying out this WISER goal-setting technique and want to share your story, please contact teresa@carplife.org

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CARP Toronto Steps Up

Contributed by Nina Urbonya

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Twenty participants from Toronto, Windsor, Quebec, and Montreal gathered at the Toronto Family Church from January 28 to 29, 2017, for the latest STEP UP (Student Empowerment through Unification Principles) seminar organized by the Collegiate Association for the Research of Principles (CARP).

STEP UP was launched one year ago at the national CARP Momentum workshop, and since then the two-day experience has been held in several local communities. STEP UP is a student empowerment seminar that focuses on CARP’s seven core Unification Principles, defined as “principles that can bring about unity on all levels.”

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The sessions were facilitated by David Young, a CARP student coach, and Nina Urbonya, CARP’s international liaison. They led the participants through different interactive activities to get them to apply these Unification Principles in a practical way to their life. The seminar included many “pair shares,” in which participants communicated their thoughts on each principle with each other. 

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Testimonies from participants:

“I know things that I need to change for the better about myself and have practical steps to move in that direction.”

“I have found out more about myself and have noticed that I am becoming more confident. I also started to realize how much of an impact I can have on people by just being present.”

“It was amazing. I really feel like I changed in one day. This workshop has inspired me to go to more Second Gen workshops around the world, learn more about myself, True Parents, those around me, and try to better understand the DP and build a close relationship with my family, friends, myself and God.”

“Writing down my complaints really helped me see how much I was complaining about my dad. This insight is going to be something I think about for the rest of my life, because I don’t want to live on complaints; I want to solve them and live on joy instead.”

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CARP’s mission is to inspire and empower students through the study and application of Unification Principles. Over the weekend, participants were encouraged to be open to discovering new things about themselves and to take action to create the life they want using Unification Principles.

After the last session on Saturday, everyone went out to eat poutine, a Canadian dish made up of french fries and cheese curds topped with a light brown gravy.

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Overall, 95 percent of the participants reported feeling more validated and confident in themselves after the seminar .   

The CARP team and local staff thank all of the participants for an amazing experience and for investing so much time and energy during the weekend together. CARP is looking forward to the next STEP UP seminar and to implementing feedback and new ideas to continue elevating the STEP UP experience.

Many thanks to the all those who helped make this seminar a success! Thank you to CARP, Koshin Young, and Nathan Bellow for hosting and organizing this seminar in Toronto. 

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More reflections:

“Like my seat-mate said, ‘The world is mine.’ If I have the freedom to actually make an impact, WHY NOT! Because the universe gives you what you ask for. So just keep asking for it! I personally look forward to more seminars and, in time, to be a part of the staff. Because I can do it.”

“I enjoyed it overall, I truly did. There was a great, big atmosphere of just general companionship and friendliness; everyone was happy. My only real complaint is that this workshop was too short-lived. Make it longer, please!”

“I like how you make us answer different questions and surprisingly bring all our answers together to form one sentence that really shows what you want out of life. For a visual guy like me, it was eye-opening.”

“I already believe that this is true, and I’m working toward creating my reality. It was very liberating to even think that we can achieve so much as long as we can see and believe in that happening.”

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Following Up with Goal-Setting Part 1

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At the start of the new year, we shared an article about the WISER goal-setting process developed by CARP President Naokimi Ushiroda with over 10 years of goal-setting experience. Hopefully, some of you had a chance to try out this more comprehensive method of clarifying and setting awesome goals.

Now that it’s been a few weeks, we want re-emphasize the value in having a system in place for achieving goals. In an exclusive interview with Naokimi, we learned how he applies this goal-setting method in his daily life. 

So, let’s review each step of the WISER process and ask Naokimi a follow up question on how to actually apply the steps. We will focus on the first two steps in this article, which are the more conceptual stages of the process. Stay tuned for next week’s article applying the last three action-oriented steps of the process. 

wisergoals_page3_WIA section from the WISER Goal-Setting Worbook listing the steps for W and I.*

What

This step is a brainstorming session to list out what you want which then informs what your goals should be. These goals should also be listed into different categories of your life such as health, career, relationships, etc.

Follow-up question: How do you navigate and organize your list of goals? 

“It’s a good start to outline all the different things you may want in 2017 as mentioned in the article. However, because we have limited time and resources, it’s important to prioritize. So, pick one goal among each categorized list to focus on as your key breakthrough goal, or the one thing that if achieved this year, would make you feel satisfied.

I work almost full time, have a coaching business on the side, do Tae Kwon Do, and I’m also a husband and a father of two so there are many things to balance in my life right now. In order to manage all this, I try to focus on one main thing to achieve in four key areas of my life.

    • For example, in my public work, my main focus will be to secure a team, budget, and goals for the National Youth & Young Adult Ministry. For my business, I want to focus on securing 12 clients for the year. In terms of relationships, I will focus on consistent quality interaction with my wife to strengthen my marriage. And in the area of health, my main breakthrough goal is to get a black belt in Tae Kwon Do.

Again, all these areas of my life, I focus on one key breakthrough goal and make that my focus for 2017.” 

wisergoals_page4_W_partA sneak peek into the workbook for brainstorming the W step. 

Inspiration

We discussed inspiration in the context of a physical vision board in the last article. A daily visual reminder would help keep people inspired to continue pursuing their goals.

Follow-up Question: How do you flesh out this step and are we really just talking about a physical vision board?

“I think vision boards are great for those who are stimulated visually. For me, I find that writing things down works best. I really like brainstorming on a blank word document. I ask myself some powerful questions like “what do you really want?” and formulate different visions in my mind and start writing it down.

For example, before it was officially confirmed that I would be working in a new role as the Director of the Youth and Young Adult Ministry, I imagined what it would be like, and started writing out a purpose statement, my dream team, the organizational structure and a budget. I used this to actually negotiate with the Executives at HSA, which eventually led to me to getting hired in my new role.

In one sense, I was already living my new role and was feeling excited and inspired to fulfill what I envisioned in my mind through writing it down and talking with others about it.   

So, the vision board is one type of reminder, but continually clarifying, and writing it out in words further substantiates what you want. Using all your senses, TRY writing out the experience of achieving your goal.

  • What do you see?
  • Who are you with?
  • What do you smell?
  • What do you hear?
  • What do you taste?
  • How do you feel?

The more you flesh out the experience, the more you will be able to already feel some of the benefits of achieving your goal in this visualization exercise.

“Some say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.” – Zig Ziglar

Then, make sure to carry around with you this mini written manifesto as a daily reminder!”

wisergoals_page6_I_partA sneak peek into the workbook for brainstorming the I step. 

Take this week to apply the first two steps of the WISER process. Identify your breakthrough goals, or what you want, and then visualize for yourself what it would be like to achieve those goals for inspiration. These two steps are an important conceptual stage that sets you up to then take action which you can read all about next week. 

If you would like to learn more about the WISER process and are interested in a more detailed, personalized workbook on the subject, please email naokimi@wisercoaching.com 

*In the workbook, W represents “Who” which is just a deeper reflection of “What.”

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